I do not understand the mentality of this society. No one listens to the voice(s) that's crying out; voices of caution. No one heeds the warning signs anymore. I will never understand why so many gift away the most beautiful, priceless thing they own as a mere trinket. They choose to give away their purty - a precious, God-given jewel - like something they bought from a dime store. I don't understand why they offer it up to the highest bidder or give it out as a prize for a game; why they hand it over without question, without committment. A heated moment in the backseat and all is lost. Love just isn't patient anymore.
It seems as though, every time I turn around, I hear of another friend, loved one, or acquaintance who has gone down the road of premarital sex. And I wonder why. If I could only sit down with them, I would ask them WHY?
Why did you give it all away? What was your reason? What justified your actions? Don't you know that there is a better way? Do you not see the damage you have done? Did you do it because you wanted to feel loved and accepted? Why not turn to God who loves you so much He gave His Son to die for you? Why not turn to the Author of love? Why? Why?
Jeremiah 29:11-13
"For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end. Then shall ye call upon me, and ye shall go and pray unto me, and I will hearken unto you. And ye shall seek me, and find me, when ye shall search for me with all your heart."
As a teenager, I remember spending night crying over losing one friend after the next to sexual promiscuity. I would see them beging to date around, then slowly give themselves away. Next, I would see heartbreak, pregnancy, diseases. I saw a tremendous amount of emotional pain by toying with sexual sin. It hurt me to see them go through so much....it still hurts today. If only they had resisted Satan's temptation.
In 2004 I wrote the following prayer in my journal:
Oh Lord, please come and touch my generation. May it be a generation that pleases You!..a pure, unadulterated, clean generation who lives to glorify You in their bodies. Help me, as a Christian, come out and separate myself from the ungodliness of our society and be a light in this world.
Now, seven years later, I echo that same prayer.
I pray each one of you will hold on to your precious purity and guard it; treasure it; keep it safe. Keep it sacred. Do not lose something so valuable and beautiful.
Psalm 37:3-7
"Trust in the LORD, and do good; so shalt thou dwell in the land, and verily thou shalt be fed. Delight thyself also in the LORD: and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart. Commit thy way unto the LORD; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass. And he shall bring forth thy righteousness as the light, and thy judgment as the noonday. Rest in the LORD, and wait patiently for him: fret not thyself because of him who prospereth in his way, because of the man who bringeth wicked devices to pass."
Do you know what you have done;
What you had, then gave away?
I gave you something so special,
Something wonderful to save.
I gave you your purity,
Something that I made
For your one and only love
That I would send your way.
But you threw it to the wind
With no thought of tomorrow.
You had your fun and pleasure
That soon turned to sorrow.
You gave away to many
What I had made for only one,
And the sin you have committed
Has been placed upon my Son.
Why did you give it all away
When you could have had a life so pure?
All you had to do was trust me
But now the pain, you must endure.
I love you still, and you are forgiven.
There is cleansing and freedom today.
But it does not change your past.
Oh, why did you give it all away?
This is a powerful plea. One Samantha and I echo and fervently pray for as well.
ReplyDeleteMost people never realize what they have until its gone. Most people who have lost their purity, only really realize what they gave up once it is to late.
They underestimate the power of the flesh. They don't realize that God created them to love and get attached. They don't realize that God created the heart to love one person forever. And when they fool around with dating, their heart over powers their mind, and they cease to think clearly. They no longer can resist the temptation. Why? Because God designed us to love, he designed our bodes that way, BUT with the ONE He created for us, in the purity of marriage.
Thank you for this post and for your prayers.
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God Bless
Adam and Samantha.
Amen, Kristen! I pray the same thing as you. It is so sad, as we were talking about the other day on the phone, to see people go down this path.
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ReplyDeleteWhy did you give it all away? I didn’t give it away. I made an active decision to share my love (in a physical as well as emotional way) with the man I love. It wasn’t stolen from me, I wasn’t coerced into it, I don’t regret it for a minute. Love is not finite. Just as you claim the love of God is infinite, the human heart and mind are capable of infinite amounts of love and affection. Having sex with someone does not rip that capability from you, it simply changes the manner in which to love. Because I made the decision to share this act with my now husband, my love morphed into something deeper than I could have imagined
What was your reason? I am an adult, I am control of my mind and my body, and I wanted to share myself with the man I loved. No other reason than love
What justified your actions? That I have the power to make my own decisions and no one has the right to judge those
Don't you know that there is a better way? Do you not see the damage you have done? I’m perfectly happy with my decision. I have done no damage to myself, to my husband, to anyone that I know, or to anyone I don’t know. What I do in my bedroom, in my own time, is private information between me and the man (or woman, depending on the person we are talking about) in question. Having sex (when it is your decision) deepens your bond, allows you to share a part of you that you can’t do in words, increases trust and overall sense of belonging. If you feel your better way is to not have sex before marriage, then that is your “better way”. However, forcing this way on everyone is not right. No two people are alike, so no two experiences will be the same
Did you do it because you wanted to feel loved and accepted? Why not turn to God who loves you so much He gave His Son to die for you? Why not turn to the Author of love? Why? Why? I don’t subscribe to your religion, but even if I did, I wouldn’t see the need to deprive myself of life experiences that I CHOSE to have. Being a good person isn’t predicated on the notion that you must lock yourself away in a tower and never experience the life that God (if you believe in God) created for you! If you choose to refrain from premaritial sex, and that is your decision, then you have my complete respect in your decision. All I ask, is the same from you.
Liz,
ReplyDeleteI am only going to address the following:
"If you feel your better way is to not have sex before marriage, then that is your “better way”.
My "better way" as you call it is not the better way because I think it is. It is because the Bible says it is.
"However, forcing this way on everyone is not right. No two people are alike, so no two experiences will be the same."
I have no intention of "forcing" God's way on anyone. My intent is to spread awareness that when the Lord said, "This is what you must do," then it is what we must do.
Truth is absolute. Today, we have made it into "what's true for you isn't true for me." That makes no sense whatsoever. If my truth says it's okay to shoot you.... then it's fine, right? It's MY truth. It's MY choice. It's MY "better way"....right?
Wrong.
Truth is absolute. The same for all. When God says, "here it is....this is wrong, this is right." then we have the measuring stick.
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ReplyDeleteGod bless you for your wisdom and insight. I was in college many years ago and I remember one young lady talking about 'spending the night" with a man she just met and how upset she was that he kept calling her by the wrong name. How sad.
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ReplyDeleteYou might be stuck having to moderate comments for awhile.. once they latch onto a blog they delight in spending their time posting rude comments on other's blogs that don't agree with their view on life that they believe everyone should follow.
Apparently I am good at run-on sentences. Sorry about the mega sentence above. :)
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