Choosing to quit the dating game doesn’t mean rejecting friendship with the opposite sex, companionship, romance, or marriage. We can still pursue those things, we just choose to pursue them on God’s terms and in his time.
Some people who hear about my decision not to date till I'm ready for marriage assume that my heart must've broken. No, my heart was made new by my Savior...Having a girlfriend was no longer my greatest need. Knowing and obeying him was.
True love isn't just expressed in passionately whispered words or an intimate kiss or embrace, before two people are married, love is expressed in self-control, patience, even words left unsaid.
Deepening intimacy without defining a level of commitment is dangerous. It's like going mountain climbing with a partner who isn't sure she wants the responsibility of holding your rope. When you've climbed two thousand feet up a mountain face, you don't want to have a conversation about how she feels 'Tied down' by your relationship.
....dating is a product of our entertainment driven, disposable-everything American culture.
One of the saddest tendencies of dating is to distract young adults from developing their God-given abilities and skills.
God gives us singleness---a season of our lives unmatched in its boundless opportunities for growth, learning, and service...
We each have a ‘room’ containing all our sinful deeds and thoughts. But just because we admit this or feel bad about it doesn’t mean we’re forgiven. Remorse can’t save anyone. Only faith in Christ can. Only trust in His death and resurrection for us.
The human heart doesn’t like taking orders from the mind. The time will come for all of us when we won’t feel we’re doing the godly, responsible thing we’re resolved to do.
The question is not merely, “Are you and a potential spouse saved?” but rather, “Are both of you in love with Jesus Christ? Will you place Him even before each other?”
And because I’ve experienced it – because Jesus died for me – I’m committed to a love life that is controlled by Him. I invite you along. In the light of the love He’s given us, let’s make purity and blamelessness our priority.
You might find my blog of interest where I critique Josh Harris’s IKDG book. Sadly Harris mentions all the problems he see with dating but doesn’t admit the problems his approach has caused.
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Hope this helps.
Steve,
ReplyDeleteI actually already stumbled across it. Being that everything in his book is Biblically sound, I don't believe his book "caused" problems. I believe our disobedience causes problems. That's not to say that if you date, you are disobeying God, but his book presents a new attitude towards dating; one that is fully backed by Biblical stanards and precepts. And I am one of thousands whose life was changed for the better, not the worse. Blessings.