Don't Blanket My Fairytale!

Let's face it. As girls and women, we LOVE a good fairytale. Be honest. We love Cinderella, Snow White and Sleeping Beauty. We love their stories, we love their voices, we love their gowns...and we love their "happily ever afters."

Since I have been married, people have asked me about married life.

How is it?

What's it like?

Is it soooooo dreamy??

People have asked me if it is everything I imagined it. My answer? More. It is far more than I ever expected. It is wonderful and beautiful and fun and precious.... But it is also hard work.

When Grant and I were engaged, we were both shocked at the amount of people who threw wet blankets on our romance. It seemed like every time we turned around, there was another piece of marital advice like...

Enjoy it now. It won't be like that for long. *sweet smile*

Honey, marriage isn't ALL it's cracked up to be.

You just wait until after the honeymoon. Reality will hit hard.

Now... just don't expect it to be perfect, okay?

How's that for encouragement? Sadly, the wet blankets we received were from married people...Christian married people.

If I could give a bit of encouragement to upcoming brides and grooms, I would say,

MARRIED LIFE IS WONDERFUL!!!!

BUT!.... it's hard work.

Some people (like our wet blanket throwers) believe that once you say "I Do" the fairytale begins!...and that is partly true. But then they begin to experience the busy and hectic life of marital bliss and, unfortunately, what usually follows is a failure to communicate, a lack of interest, apathy, boredom, and downright laziness! Then they become a spokesperson for "Reality".....believing it their duty to blanket the fairytale dreams of others. But what many married (and non-married) people fail to realize is that you CAN have a fairytale romance! It IS possible!....BUT you must work for it. It will not be handed to you on a silver platter. It does not come with the marriage licence or the ring. Fairytale love is built, not simply given. You have to work through conflicts, work through problems and decisions, and work in the mud of your own selfishness. You have to get your hands dirty. You must make the effort and put in 110%, not just 50% like many believe. You have to put your mind to having a fairytale love. It is attainable....but you must do your part.

So, for all your brides out there, CONGRATULATIONS!!! A fairytale love that you could never imagine is at your fingertips. Roll up your sleeves, straighten your veil - and GO AFTER IT!!